My own first singles club experience was a rather 'mixed bag'. After an introductory meeting in a cafe with two committee members and two other prospective members I joined a club. Soon after, I attended a games night at the home of a lady named Katie. Around a dozen guests came over the course of the evening, most of them at least five years older than me. Within a few minutes of arriving I clumsily pulled the ring opener on a can of beer causing it to explode over Katie's nice blouse so she needed to change it. I was embarrassed but soon recovered for what was actually a very enjoyable experience.

I remember this nowadays when newcomers to my singles network attend a house-party or a dinner with just thirty guests, none of whom amount to 'talent' in their eyes and ask "Is this all that's coming?" I am disappointed in their attitude.

These people clearly aren't aware that success, particularly in meeting a new partner, is very much dependant on how you think. The right approach is to look for the very best in each function you attend and never expect too much from any particular experience.

Going on a decisive hunt for new partner rarely yields good results. Poor results lead to pessimism and that leads to continued poor results. I have noted time and time again that those people who are positive, understanding and willing to make any occasion successful with their friendly personality regardless of who else attends become much more influential members of the network. On average, they are far more successful with the opposite sex than are those who are negatively judgmental.